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eBook Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life ePub

by Linda Martinez-Lewi

  • ISBN: 1585426245
  • Category: Relationships
  • Subcategory: Self-Help
  • Author: Linda Martinez-Lewi
  • Language: English
  • Publisher: Tarcher; First Edition edition (January 10, 2008)
  • Pages: 256
  • ePub book: 1681 kb
  • Fb2 book: 1831 kb
  • Other: lrf azw azw lit
  • Rating: 4.7
  • Votes: 889

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Martinez-Lewi believes that high- level narcissists are unlikely to change, so she offers methods for readers to maintain . He defines for all of us that we have equal rights in all things, and in the end, none of us leaves this life with anything more or less than anyone else.

Martinez-Lewi believes that high- level narcissists are unlikely to change, so she offers methods for readers to maintain personal boundaries, remain psychologically secure and live the life they choose.

Martinez-Lewi helps you to liberate yourself from draining personal . I hate the writing style.

Martinez-Lewi helps you to liberate yourself from draining personal relationships with narcissists, and shows how to regain a sense of peace, balance, and well-being. This book reads more like a book of poetry on narcissism, and - like the very narcissists under discussion - is not really there to help you but instead to drown you in dramatic flair: "The narcissist is emotionally blocked and cold, like the deepest recesses of a long-deserted tomb. It's too much "Boo-hoo, the narcissists in your life is so evil that he-it's somehow always a he-will purposely do this to you to ruin your life. It reads like a story of complaints against narcissists.

In her new book, Recovering and Healing after the Narcissist: Discovering Your True Self, a sequel to Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life, Dr. Linda Martinez-Lewi provides valuable insights and specific in-depth healing and recovery practices for those who are and have. Linda Martinez-Lewi provides valuable insights and specific in-depth healing and recovery practices for those who are and have been in destructive psychological and emotional relationships with narcissistic personalities, including children of narcissists, narcissistic spouses and. ex-spouses and siblings of narcissists.

Linda Martinez-Lewi, P. Dr. Martinez-Lewi is the author of Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life and Recovery and Healing After the Narcissist. She provides International Telephone Consultation to clients who are going through emotional and psychological ordeals with narcissistic parents, narcissistic spouses and ex-spouses, narcissistic siblings and other narcissistic family members

Martinez-Lewi helps you to liberate yourself from draining personal relationships with narcissists, and shows how to regain a sense of peace, balance, and well-being.

by Linda Martinez-Lewi. She understood how to excel in the world and was very successful in her professional life. I looked up to her, almost worshipped her. Allyson (I'll call her) always got what she wanted.

Combining clinical analysis with psychological profiles of famous narcissists, here is an indispensable guide to recognizing, coping with, and ultimately overcoming the destructive behavior of narcissists. Everybody needs some healthy narcissism. But in a society obsessed with appearance, wealth, and status, it's easy for problematic narcissists to thrive. Many people who seem to "have it all" are suffering from one of the most common--and overlooked--personality disorders of our time: high level narcissism. Typified by an obsession with perfection, a desperate need for admiration, and a willingness to use and exploit others for personal gain, high level narcissism can spell devastation for anyone who crosses the narcissist's path. In Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life, psychotherapist Linda Martinez-Lewi presents an in-depth and supportive plan for identifying, understanding, and dealing with high level narcissistic behavior in those close to you. Martinez-Lewi helps you to liberate yourself from draining personal relationships with narcissists, and shows how to regain a sense of peace, balance, and well-being. Drawing on detailed profiles of famous narcissists, including Pablo Picasso, Frank Lloyd Wright, Armand Hammer, and Ayn Rand, as well as expertly rendered case studies from her private practice as a psychotherapist, Martinez-Lewi shows how to: - understand where narcissistic behavior comes from; - learn to spot narcissistic traits, even in the early stages of relationships; - realize why attempting to change a narcissist is fruitless; and - protect yourself from the narcissist's opportunism, manipulative behavior, and lack of empathy.

Comments

Mozel Mozel
This is an outstanding book that describes several famous people as well as unknown people who are narcissists. I knew about Picasso, but I didn't know about Frank Lloyd Wright, which is interesting since his architectural interior designs have been compared to dark tunnels and "womb" like. The chapter "Cold Embrace" explains how this symbiosis begins at birth. Whether consciously, or subconsciously, it is interesting Wright made real his attachment to the womb, and attachment to mother. I also like the in-depth description and explanation of the Golden Child, since I am the Scapegoat of my narcissistic family, this shed some light on what they are like on the inside because, honestly, I have been only guessing for years. From reading the book, I get the impression it is the narcissistic mother who decides which one will be the Golden Child. Although I was the first-born, I believe I was passed on being chosen because of my physical defect from birth; I was born with a lazy eye and that was perceived by my mother as ugly and imperfect, which must have enraged her. The author does not go into the dynamics of the Scapegoat in a narcissistic family, because Scapegoats rarely become narcissists. If someone is looking to discover how a narcissist is made and what their modus operandi is as adults, this book is for you.

I agree with the author that a strong self-esteem and development of our authentic selves will shield us from entanglements with narcissists. Marriages, or "significant other" relationships with narcissists can be devastating. I broke up with my narcissistic boyfriend over 30 years ago and to this day he continues to stalk me and tries to meddle in my life via his proxies--my narcissistic family members. It's unbelievable, but the goal for some of these narcissists is if they can't have you for their supply or as a convenient repository for their negative emotions, they will destroy you, if not financially, emotionally, psychologically, socially, then physically. I consider narcissists to be very dangerous people, but they can be out-witted because, odd as this may sound, they have profound blind spots. I prefer the "no contact" tactic in dealing with them. Ignore them as if they don't exist and go about living your best life. I'll be the first to admit, it's difficult at first to go no contact, but it is necessary. For my survival it was.
Elildelm Elildelm
Very well written book with good material. I know a lot of about Narcissists and this just reaffirmed everything I knew but said it so much better! I had to deal with a Narcissistic family group - covert Narcissist, malignant Narcissist and a sociopath with anti-social traits. Set myself free. They're still smearing me and lying about me of course... but one day we'll all see God. :)
Moonworm Moonworm
This is very informative about what makes a narcissist tick, and once you realize that, you can start taking the blame off of yourself. Narcissists will leave you scratching your head at their inability to "look inward" to themselves. Essentially, speaking for women.. if you have given all of YOU (or had "taken" by him) all of you that you have to a narcissistic male, and received nothing back for yourself, get out as fast as you can before you get so sucked under that your self esteem will never rebound. They know they are narcissists, they don't care, and they are aware of how to manipulate you or they would not be with you. RUN and Run FAST!!! They blame you and so you will blame you, but if you back up and get a clear view, you will know why you probably initially hesitated before you jumped into that relationship in the first place. Trust your GUT and your first instincts. They will not be wrong.
PC-rider PC-rider
The author vegans by defining narcissism, and the actions undertaken by narcissists.

Not all narcissists act in exactly the same way, and some may have stronger narcissistic traits than do others.

Later in the book, the author moves to define the ways Western Society has come to embrace narcissism almost as a sign of superiority and worthy of placing the narcissistic person on a higher level than others.

All too often, those portraying narcissistic traits are awarded for such, but there is one problem. Those who carry out their lives giving in to their narcissistic tendencies tend to fear their own deaths immensely.

They cannot cope with the notion that in this one way, they are no better than all of those the narcissist sees as their interiors, and for the narcissist, that means every other person on the planet.

To hold onto immortality, they will attempt to ensure edifices in their name live on.

In the final chapters, the author speaks of Karma, Reincarnation, God, however one sees God, and how getting into meditation assists both the narcissist and all others associated to narcissist's as well, as the way to find inner peace and how to rediscover (or perhaps even uncover for the first time in known memory) our authentic selves.

The author's encouraging words on the need to get in touch with our true selves will help both narcissist and non-narcissists come to terms with how we are each special FROM WITHIN; not because of what we do or don't have from the outer world.

He defines for all of us that we have equal rights in all things, and in the end, none of us leaves this life with anything more or less than anyone else.

True, some expect their self edifices of themselves will hint at their immortality, but given the way our information world is now, those viewing the edifice of a deceased narcissist may comment on how beautiful it is, or how generous it was of the narcissist to create a garden, building, or park in his name after his passing, while another person viewing it says "Yeah, but do you remember what a real jerk he was to people when he was alive?"
Weernis Weernis
I could only give this two stars because it was so flowery with words and analogies. It was difficult to read and very redundant. You can tell the author has a large vocabulary and enjoys metaphor. The writing style belongs in a novel. The points of the book could be outlined in a couple of paragraphs. I've read many books on this topic and can't recommend this one.